Long dildo
A long dildo is as much about control as it is about depth. There is always a section left in your hand, so you set the angle, the pace and how much of it you use, and you can change any of the 3 without taking it out.
Why does the same long dildo go in further at a different angle?
It stops, so you figure it’s too long. More often it’s the angle, not the length.
The vagina is not a straight tube. Gray’s Anatomy describes it as “directed upward and backward,” so a long dildo aimed straight in runs into the back wall pretty quickly. Angle the tip up and back toward your spine and the same shaft keeps going.
Anal is different again, with 2 bends instead of 1: a shallow one just inside the anus, and another a couple of inches up where the rectum turns. So with a long anal dildo you change direction partway in instead of pushing harder.
Your position decides how easy that is. On your back with your knees pulled to your chest, or riding it on top, you can adjust the angle with your hips without taking it out. Face down on your knees locks you into one line, and that’s the hardest position to adjust from.
If it stops moving, back off an inch and tilt it. Pushing harder at the same angle just jams it into the same spot. A flexible shaft helps, because you can redirect it mid-session, and a curved one already points off the straight line before you start. Our Vincent has a flexible shaft for exactly that.
Thin or thick: which long dildo suits you?
Two long dildos at the same length can be completely different buys, and the length on the listing won’t tell you which one you’re looking at.
A long thin dildo is the easier one to get deep. There’s less to open up on the way in, so most of what you feel is depth.
A long thick dildo goes the other way. The width is what you notice on every stroke, and depth takes a back seat.
So pick the one that matches what you want to feel, then read the diameter next to the length. Every long dildo on this page lists both, so you can put a slim shaft and a thick one at the same length side by side and see exactly what separates them.
What can you do with a long dildo that a shorter one can’t?
Grip it anywhere you like. Enough of the shaft stays outside you to hold at any point, so it works on your side, sitting down, or braced against a wall, without having to reach awkwardly underneath yourself.
The same toy also covers shallow and deep in one session. A few quick inches near the entrance, then one long slow stroke, with no need to move or reset anything in between.
Then there’s the partner side of it. A short toy slips out of their hand mid-session, while the inches that stay outside hold it in place and give them something to steer with.
FAQs
One step up. If the one you own already goes in comfortably, another 2 inches is a real change without putting you back at the start.
Pick for the spot you like rather than the number on the box. Some people find their number partway up the range and stay there for years, while others head straight for the longest dildo they can get. The right one is whichever you keep reaching for.
More than a shorter toy, because there’s more surface to coat. Lube yourself first, then the toy, and top it up halfway through instead of waiting until you feel drag. The anus doesn’t make any of its own, so going in dry is what makes it hurt.
Use water-based only. Silicone lube reacts with silicone and breaks the surface down over time. A thicker gel lasts longer than a runny one, which is what you want when there’s this much shaft to keep slick.
Yes, it can happen, and it’s the part nobody mentions when they tell you to buy soft. Soft silicone compresses on the way in, so more of it fits than the number on the box suggests, and that’s the real reason the advice exists.
Past a point, though, you lose the push. A shaft that goes soft and narrow near the base has nothing left to carry your hand’s pressure up to the tip. What you want is a soft outer layer over a firmer core, and the thing to check is how thick the shaft stays near the base, since that’s the section holding everything above it.
